First of all, you should be relieved to hear that urges are completely normal. There is nothing wrong with you! You should also know that an urge is simply a thought/feeling. As with so many things about eating, that is both the good news and the bad news! It means that you are completely in control of what you choose to do with the thought, whether to act on it or not. It’s all happening inside of you. But what you tell yourself, inside your own head, will be the thing that makes the difference. Easy to say, hard to do. At least initially.

Why do I sabotage my efforts at achieving my goals? Who is that voice in my head, anyway?

If you’ve ever tried to break an old habit that isn’t serving you, or form a new healthier habit, you have probably encountered the phenomenon known as “cognitive dissonance.”   One part of your mind is saying “yes, yes, yes” and another part is saying, “no, no, no” all at the same time or in rapid sequence. It’s like a tug of war with no peace in sight.  It’s easy to feel like you are a spectator, a victim, just waiting to see who wins this time.  How can you get control of the situation so that the “real you” wins?